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Following on from my previous post regarding how we teach, what has come to mind is the importance of presence and being present.

Last week, we had a death in the family, and I had to rush to Kuala Lumpur with my wife and brother to be with my mother. It was not an easy time as her husband had passed on suddenly. While he was battling Parkinson’s, no one, including doctors, gave us any notice that his time was near. The situation was not so straightforward as my mother’s husband had adult children of his own, and she was married to him for about eight years before his passing. Taking Covid into account, the families did not have much time to get to know each other.
While there, we did not have much to do and spent time eating, shopping, and hanging out with her. We had a good time hearing my mother’s heart. She could express her pain, joy, and everything in between. After returning to Singapore, my brother shared how he was grateful for our family. While we’re not perfect and have many broken pieces, we have a family that loves and trusts each other. We enjoy spending time with each other regularly.
My mother was so grateful we were there with her that she cried. She even wanted to give us money for being with her. But from there, I knew how much our presence meant to her. That us being present was of deep impact on her.
I hope this post encourages us to give our loved ones time, mind, and hearts. Give them the gift of our presence and being present.